Unique Muslimah

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Umm Omar says:

It’s on my list of places to go, insha’Allah. I just love your photography, masha’Allah. I have to admit, I didn’t appreciate photography as an art much before coming across your work. Keep sharing!

badkittyartstudio says:

Of all the blogs and news that I have read about this (these) issue(s)…your words have been by far the most profound. This is a wonderful post and terrific writing. I just wanted to say thank you, thank you for putting it all together within a context of history that makes sense and is true to the plight of humanity. Thank you.

sophyie Says:
May 24th, 2007 at 4:04 pm

For me it is the strangest of all thoughts to think about being married to someone I dont love. To share my life and soul with someone I don’t love. To share my bed with someone I don’t love. Don’t get me wrong, I know marriage is not all about love and pink glasses, there needs to be a lot of “head” and not only “heart”. I can see that arranged marriages can work- if both want to make it work. Love changes over time, and I’m sure one can learn to love somebody- and I also think, marriages based on friendship might work. But it seems so technical- you know, deciding to marry someone because he’s well off, has a good job, good manners. Sure that plays into account, but it seems like a life like that might end up a life NEXT to someone instead of WITH someone.

Shahrzad Says:
August 6th, 2007 at 3:03 pm

Virginity of Soul…It is important. But the problem some VIRGIN boys get married soon just to satisfy their sexual feelings and after marriage they find out new thing and start to go along other women too. I think most important is that the marriage should not be just for sexual purposes. He must have feeling of settling down just with ONE woman and Love her for loving all women just in ONE, then get married…I really dont mind if my husband NOT to be virgin as long as i know he left all past relationships to be just MINE..

pari jan Says:
July 10th, 2007 at 1:41 am

Salam sweetie. Remember one thing – it is so easy for people to suddenly have a *voice* when they are safe behind a computer screen and name and to say whatever they want – when they would think twice about saying it if you were sitting in front of them. It is THEIR problem – not yours. What they might be saying to you are most likely things that are bothering them deep in their soul and instead of asking themselves questions on their feelings/actions and seeking the guidance of Allah, they find it easier to pick on others. Someone very important always says to me when I am upset about someone hurting my feelings “why should you care? are they important to your life? you and Allah know the truth – that should be enough”…….. you are wonderful and so is your blog. )

Desert Flower Says:
July 8th, 2007 at 12:54 pm

Unique {cool name by the way}. Always remember that the things people do or say have nothing to do with us but are because of there own issues. I think that my problem making friends has nothing at all to do with me but the insecurities of others who may feel intimidated by me or threatened in some way as I’ve been told that I’m very intimidating {I don’t see why}. I thought it may be helpful for you to know that we all feel like you do and God willing you will find a man who will love you for you.

Farhana Says:
August 27th, 2007 at 7:01 am

Masha’Allah! This is absolutely wonderful. As a muslim we should be kind and merciful to ALL of Allah’s creations, and insha’Allah Allah shall be merciful to us. I personally don’t believe there is such a thing as helping this person first, or that organization first, or this community first, etc. etc. I’ve found a lot of people who think that way, live their life waiting to help that ‘perfect’ person.. (what they classify as the most ‘needy’) and before they know it.. they aren’t able to. So help where you can, be it animals, people, plants, yourself, your family, the environment, etc. .. as long as your intention is to please Allah, I wouldn’t worry about what others say. May Allah make is easy for you, reward you for your good intentions, and shower you with His mercy in this world and the next. Ameen. Love Farhana.

unfliteredme Says:
September 7th, 2007 at 4:04 am

It’s true that there are other blogs out there; however, there is no rule somewhere that people can only read one blog and must pick and choose between what’s interesting and what is not. I have never thought of blogging as a popularity contest. It is a safe place for me to write down my thoughts and feelings. If other people want to read it, then I am more than happy to share. I’m sure that other people may blog for popularity. But, I think that it’s safe to assume that anyone who writes you an email like that is projecting their own insecurities onto you. Keep blogging away! I enjoy your posts .

pamelakay Says:
September 14th, 2007 at 3:03 am

If you did not belong, if there was not a place for the unique person that is you, if there was not a need of you on this earth, God would not have created you. Have hope in your heart and do what you know is the right thing always, no matter the cost to yourself. He will deal mercifully with you. He loves you. May He bless you.

Abdullah Ramay Says:
November 3rd, 2007 at 2:57 pm

I totally agree that this custom is humiliating and unIslamic. Bedroom relations are private, women are not sexual objects in Islam! what have we made our liberating religion. Yes, Pre marital relationships are wrong and should be frowned upon, and condemned with utmost fervor. But this goes for both the men and the ladies. Marriage is built on trust, if the girl’s modesty is only the drops of blood than let us look at Hazrat Mariam (Rahimaha Allahu). I bet there would be many immodest girls who would have “passed” the test and many modest girls who would have been accused of grave things. Human beings don’t have the power to look into hearts only Allah Ta’ala has this power.

Xalimah Says:
November 4th, 2007 at 10:47 pm

I hear you! As a Muslim woman it would be wholly tragic to allow yourself to be oppressed and repressed when Allah has freed and blessed you so greatly. Stand up for yourself and all our sisters who are unable to voice their troubles.. You’re truly gifted, don’t waste it. *And, may Allah guide those brothers. Be Blessed.

Jade Says:
November 4th, 2007 at 11:48 pm

Unique, Wow, I am encouraged by your perseverance! For whatever reason it seems like there are always those who try to push us down…trials that draw us closer to God. I am glad for you that you pushed your way through those times, the times I am most ashamed of is when I did quit or stayed down.:)

Haleem Says:
December 10, 2007 at 9:17 am

Oh my goodness… I missed this… this post deserves an award on its own. Q: Do you take each other to be your lawfully wedded spouse, in sickness and in health, in…A: WEE do!

Amkii Says:
December 11, 2007 at 9:54 am

I enjoyed this post! Definitely a great message. You’re a very good person! How nice of you to do all these things for her. I’m also very glad to see how open-minded you are about religious differences. It’s very touching to read that you plan to make her a pre-Christmas meal and buy her and her puppy something for the holiday they celebrate. How many people do that for you?! I think that is just one thing that makes you such a nice, good person. I enjoy your posts…I will definitely be back to read more!

Irene Says:
January 2, 2008 at 8:55 pm

Thank you for such a well-written and beautiful entry. One of the great things about it is that it reminds us that we are never actually alone. Everyone has similar HUMAN experiences.

Aalya Says:
January 31, 2008 at 10:48 pm

Congrats! I have only recently found your blog but I so enjoy reading it all (I spend quite a few hours reading your previous blog entries!) Mashallah your writing is so ‘real’ and contemporary – Inshallah you continue to write and share some of your experiences!

creator55 Says:
February 7, 2008 at 9:53 am

I’m a new reader. I saw a link to ‘Types of Muslim Men’ and being a Muslim man I just couldn’t resist. I clicked. Then I navigated my way away from your page. I guess a couple days later I was curious so I found by way back and read some more… and more… and more… now I’m addicted. It’s like potato chips, once you have one you can’t stop. Amazing job.

abutua
February 21, 2008 at 1:58 pm

But, please sister, don’t get discouraged by people’s negative comments about your post. There is always an obstacle for da’wah and it’s never easy. It wasn’t even easy for our beloved Prophet to spread the word either. I, for one, salute you in your effort in spreading Islam. One just needs to open one’s mind (We’re living in the 21 Century) and a person may NOT judge another, before the person judges him/herself. Everyone is different. Accept the truth whether you like it or not!